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ByGladwell Wanjiku

Sep 10, 2020

Whereas women tend to open up to others, bringing the stuff that is bothering them to the surface and feeling better about it, men don’t. Who do men talk to when they have no money? Who do you talk to when your wife is cheating on you? One thing with most men is that they would never let anyone see them cry, so they always internalize their anxieties.
In our society, men are taught to be tough and not to cry or go announcing their problems- that a real man keeps his disappointments to himself. This is why most men find it difficult to open up even to their fellow men. They tend to hide things, including their health problems. Studies have shown that most men put off visiting the doctor.
If a man suddenly wants to quit his job, it may be because he feels that he is not living life to the fullest and time is running out, though he probably won’t admit it to anyone.
The fear of being controlled and smothered also affects men. Because of the strong mothering pressure that most men experience when growing up, fear of being controlled is also a common pattern. They definitely keep this to themselves because talking about it to anyone seems embarrassing. When the fear of smothering is very strong, it leads to classic commitment phobia. Any talk of a future makes the guy nervous and upset. Today being world suicide prevention day, maybe creating a safe space in the society where men are not embarrassed to speak up is a good place to start.

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